K478.ANAK BUAT PERANGAI: APA NAK BUAT?
Formula yang selalu saya guna ialah
Masalah tingkahlaku = manifestasi masalah emosi.
Jangan pilih jalan reaktif (knee-jerk solution) sebab nanti outcome biasanya lebih teruk dari masalah asal.
Cuba baiki keadaan dengan 6 simple steps ini.
1. Spend more time with him, play together, engage, build trust.
2. Show our empathy kat dia, bg dia faham yg kita faham struggle dia.
3. Empathic listening, try engage and see from his viewpoint.
4. Talk about positive things he's done, praise, show our pride
5. Repair any past anger, bebel, tak puas hati etc via apology, positive activities together.
Kemudian barulah
6. Engage in problem-solving with him. i.e nego dgn dia apa way-forward from here. Start small steps, agree on 1,2 small things before big one. Praise every small step
InsyaAllah. Banyak2 doa juga. Ini ikhtiar kita.
Semua ni bukan buat dalam sehari dua. Then minta hasil. Kena istiqamah, take slow-yet-steady approach.
Kuncinya ialah:
1. Regulate dulu, Reconnect then barulah Reason out.
2. Libatkan dia dalam solusi. Engagement bukan authoritarian approach.
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